Ever started getting it on with someone you're really, really into... and your body won't play along?
In October 2019, we surveyed over 5,000 people to discover lubricant preferences and perception of arousal. 76% of respondents associated increased natural lubrication with being more aroused - and it's a common misconception. Many people believe that the more aroused a woman or person with a vagina is, the more natural lubricant they produce. In fact, medically speaking, higher levels of arousal aren't directly correlated to the amount of natural lubricant produced, which explains why so many of us experience discomfort during sex - and consequently feelings of confusion or shame.
Arousal is not a binary experience. Desire can lead to sexual arousal which in turn can lead to involuntary bodily responses, but it's not a sure thing. As a general rule of thumb, our society, we do a whole lot of assuming.
We assume that erections and vaginal wetness mean we're being turned on. We assume that we know how turned on our partner is by the way their body responds to stimuli: a soft stroke of their skin, a whispered demand, a filthy sext or out-and-out pornography.
It's time we recognised the difference between subjective arousal and physical arousal.
What is Subjective Arousal?
What is Physical Arousal?
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