It is an uncertain time with COVID-19 (Coronavirus) around the world, and experts are giving advice around reducing the spread of viruses. But what about our love lives? Can we have sex? Shall we still be dating? What about one night stands? And couples in a monogamous relationship?
We're here to offer some practical tips.
Dating should be treated like any other social outing.
And sadly, right now, all social engagements are being stopped. The recent advice is to avoid gatherings and crowded places, such as pubs, clubs and theatres. So unless you can think of an innovative way to date without being in public spaces, within close proximity, then dates are on hold.
If you are unwell (a fever or cough in particular), please take on board the health advice and self-isolate. Be more cautious than you would normally be, and considerate for others.
Large social gatherings and events are being cancelled all over the world, and we shouldn’t take this lightly. We don’t have a vaccine for Coronavirus yet, so the best way to prevent it spreading is by ‘social distancing’ – to put simply, increasing the distance between yourself and other people (the advice is at least 6 feet) and restricting when and where people gather together. A music gig, sporting event or even a sweaty nightclub with a whole or people in close proximity are not good for anyone right now.
HANX Tips: If you're already dating someone new, continue to get to know them. Have Skype/ FaceTime calls with them, show them around your self-isolation set-up! Although conventional dates are off the cards, there is no reason why you can't still learn about each other and build a bond. It may even accelerate the relationship! And if you're trying to meet someone or planning to date once this pandemic is all over... make lists of what you want to do and where you want to go, oh, and you're still allowed to swipe...
If you’re in a monogamous relationship, be sensible. If you’re living together and practising self-isolation then we can’t think of many better things to do than getting down to some hanky panky. Sex and pleasure are much needed right now.
However, you should consider, as you would if you were to visit your relatives or friends, whether your sexual partner is immunocompromised in any way. For example, are they having chemotherapy treatment, taking medication that affects their immune system, or are HIV positive? If so, then be a little more wary about sexual contact.
We still don’t know enough about the COVID-19 virus yet but currently there is no evidence that it is sexually transmitted. However, kissing and close contact with another person is one of the most risky things you can do to transmit the virus. Unless you can figure out how to do it with sanitising, and not breathing or sweating on your partner…
As a general rule, if you’re not feeling well or your partner isn’t, then avoid sexual contact. You don't need us to tell you, but one night stands are not the best idea right now.
HANX Tips: With your partner in self-isolation (and both feeling well)? Then what better to time to have regular sex and try a few new things out. In a long-distance relationship? Phone sex is a great way to pass time. Solo? Self-pleasure is the way forward.
To summarise: We are all human, and life must go on. It has done in the past, and it will do now. Saying that, we need to exercise more caution in what we do and how we do it, so be more thoughtful in your love life approach. Please don’t go out and about on that date or use your dating app to hook-up with someone that night. Coronavirus does not mean we cannot experience pleasure or have fun, just be mindful of others and keep up to date on government health advice.
Sex is one of the best ways to pass time, stay healthy and happy, so if you can continue a healthy sex life, we couldn't recommend it more.
Stay positive, safe and healthy.
Let us know how you're getting on. Are you with a partner and having regular sex? Or are things tricky now you're in such close proximity all the time? Are you single and struggling to keep a new relationship alive? Whatever your situation, we are here to talk- head to our HANX Life forum.