Addicted To The Bad Boys

Addicted To The Bad Boys

Mon, Apr 03, 17 - Tamara Blake

“Bad Boys.” We all have a friend who is constantly attracted to them, have been there ourselves, or are in fact there right now.

Being drawn to men, who simply do not conform to approved standards of behaviour, in particular those in supposed relationships, is a known phenomenon. And recognising this is the first step in overcoming your addiction to bad boys… If, of course, that’s what you want. The BB’s do what they want, when they want, and with absolute purpose. They often possess a daring confidence that oozes sex appeal. Yet an illogical attraction to these men, initially exciting and spontaneous, inevitably ends in tears.

Here’s how it goes…

  1. Bad boy sweeps you off your feet.
  2. He fulfils your wildest sexual fantasises.
  3. Soon enough you fall head over heels.
  4. Bad boy breaks your heart.

So why do some of us feel that we don’t deserve better? And does there come an end to the drama brought by a BB?

The answer is yes; you can put an end to your BB addiction.

Start by acknowledging and addressing the underlying reasons behind your attraction. Often this is down to the initial buzz, the ‘thrill of the chase,’ the spontaneity and ultimately devastation. Many of us recognise that this road ends in heartbreak, yet we keep going back for more. Hence, we need to dig a little deeper- do we feel that we don't deserve any better? Think about this and what it actually means. As individuals we need to feel safe and secure and not constantly struggling to maintain a relationship. In time, this grows tiresome and ultimately, the bad boy will become just a fleeting memory.

It seems nice guys don’t always finish last, after all.